Whew! What a fucking year! I would say regardless of how this year went. I'm grateful to have gone through, got over, cried ( like a lot lol), experienced everything that I did. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Everything is meant to shape who we're meant to be. I feel so powerful from this year alone. When I say timing is everything and trusting your instincts is so imperative. 


I repeat TIMING IS EVERYTHING AND TRUSTING YOUR INSTINCTS IS SO IMPERATIVE.


What I reflect on this year the most I'd say is not conforming to assumptions about me. Whether those assumptions pertain to my personal life or social media life. I found the beauty in letting people who are set on viewing me a certain way or set to misunderstand me stay in what I'd like to call, "the island". In everyone's life regardless of whether it's family, friends, etc. place people exactly where they belong. I've been the one in the past always trying to show evidence to defend myself from people who weren't even valid because being perceived as "perfect" was a fragile part of my ego that I was so set on not being what "they" were trying to make me out to be. Not knowing in doing that I was giving them MY power. So I called that shit back. Sometimes no reaction is the best reaction. Now I'm not saying I won't react but it would take an awful lot. Once I gained that control back I then began to pitty the people on "the island". I also pray for the people on the island. I also began to look at life differently. Here I am 29 years old and I can say I'm living the life I've always envisioned when I was younger.


I also learned it's okay to unlearn certain things. It's okay to like what you like. It's okay to love who you love. Everything is okay if you want it to be. To change, grow, and make room for the person you want to be. Most people like to pretend that they have everything together but in reality, we ALL have things we need to change. Growth is beautiful and it's part of life. Mental health is so important and I would strongly suggest getting therapy even if you feel like you don't need it. Being able to vent as I do through my poetry, speaking to my therapist, or even blogging this it's nice.



Regardless of what I've lost, gained, or got clarity on I'm thankful and so blessed to be in good health, living in my truth, standing in my womanhood, and most of all being unapologetic. I have no complaints. 


To my dear friend Joe I lost this year I love you and thank you for the wise words and kindness, you've shown me. To my grandma Ola, the most unapologetic woman I've ever known I still find myself laughing at our conversations. I miss you and love you dearly.